Loving yourself

Why do I want to be awesome and love myself?:

You might be asking yourself why any of this is relevant. And to be completely honest I don't have a really good answer for you. I'm sure there are billions of humans that have already lived and died who didn't ever love themselves. Or there were people who loved themselves to a certain point but than jettisoned their own passion for some reason or other.

My belief is that when you love yourself unconditionally, and strive to be awesome every waking moment that only then are you working at your fullest potential. You may not be depressed about yourself or your situation in life. You may perceive everything to be fine and comfortable. And you might be right. I'm asking you to find out for yourself. Along the way you might find that you've been living exactly the way you should be all along. And if that's all you get out of this book, wouldn't that be great enough? I think it would. Even better what if you discovered something(s) about yourself along the way?

The very best reason that you need to start loving yourself is because nobody is going to do it for you. There is only one "me" in every one's life. And it's a very important person to be. There is nobody that can love you like you. And you will be the greatest love of your life. And you will allow yourself to live unashamedly and reap all that you sow.

Who am I?:

You have been living with your self for a very long time, and you probably have no idea who you even are. There are so many demands of living in a society there is almost no time to be an individual. Especially in a modern society where anyone can text, call or page you almost instantly.

You have to make some time to be alone. You have to love being alone. Because it's the time you'll get to be spending with the greatest love of your life. I have never been a person who has hated being alone. I know a lot of people who are very against the idea however. But you have to make some time to get to know yourself and fall in love with yourself a little more every day.

I like to take myself out on dates. A nice stroll through the library with yourself is very relaxing. Myself and I we love going to the video arcade together, and we have seen some pretty great sunsets in the park. This idea may seem a little silly at first, but if you would try it I think you'd be pleasantly surprised at how much fun the two of you can have on your own.

Why am I trying to date myself?:

Yourself and you have been fighting ever since you were born. You are a walking contradiction between the person you choose to be and the person you are. Don't you think it's time to re-examine some of the choices you've made? Maybe the person you are knows something too.

That's what myself and I spend a lot of time with. Who are we? It's a very big question, and an even more important conversation to be having. Especially with someone who unconditionally supports you. There is actually no other person you could be having this conversation with.

Hopefully when you really do find out who you are, and who you're trying to be you can make some compromises. You can reach an apex of the individual you are and the socialite you feel you have to be.

Everyone lies to themselves:

It is such a silly thing actually. Lying is so easy to do we don't even think about it sometimes when we do it. We learned how to do it as children and we've been doing it ever since. A little white lie here, a slightly larger one there it's so easy! Everyone believes pretty much anything you tell them.

The only problem is when you've become so adept at lying, as we all are, you start to forget you're even telling them or who you're telling them to. Pretty soon, sure enough you're lying to yourself.

The main problem with lying to yourself is that you are yourself. You will believe your own mind over any other source of knowledge. Even in spite of contrary evidence your gut always knows best.

When you love someone and I mean really truly love them you cannot lie to them. Because if you did really love them like you say you do you would be willing to talk to them about the hard things too.

It's very easy to avoid conversations with those close around you. Some people might even prefer to keep being lied to just to keep the smoothness of it all. Life isn't always about being smooth though. When you love someone you bring up those things because you want what's best for them.

And when the greatest love of your life needs a cold dose of the truth you need to tell it. How can you love yourself if you're not even brave enough to admit that you've told him/her lies?

If you want to love yourself like I want you to love yourself this might be a good time to admit some of the times you've lied to yourself. And it's ok to cry I won't tell anyone and neither will yourself.

Now that you've had a good cry(don't worry there will be more) STOP LYING TO YOURSELF DUMMY! And when you're ready to stop lying we'll move on.