Death, loss, and nothing you can do

The cruel hand of death has been all around a lot of people in my life lately. And while it has passed over my door this time, next time I may not be so lucky. I have suddenly been asked to be a shoulder to cry on for several close friends who are dealing with the loss of a loved one. What do you say? What can you do? The answer is, nothing.

There is nothing you can do after someone is gone to show them how much you love them. That is a hard pill to swallow for anyone, but we all must. When someone is gone, that's just where they are. There are no secret bridges or passage-ways to the other side.

Lately I have been thinking if I have been preparing myself for the loss of anyone. And I really don't think that I have been. If you love someone you better go and tell them. If you haven't talked to your grandmother who raised you, or your mother in a while, you better just go and do it.

That's really the only way to deal with death. Spend your life loving those who love you, and making the most of every today. Tomorrow may never come, you might not ever get that chance you've been hoping for.

I challenge you to call everyone who is important to you right now, and tell them why they are. Don't leave things up to fate, take control.

Be awesome and love those around you. And in turn you really will be loving yourself.